In his book "Making Habits, Breaking Habits", Dr Jeremy Dean mentions three traps:
𝟏. 𝐁𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤-𝐚𝐧𝐝-𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠: That’s when we assume we’ve failed if we don’t achieve perfection.
𝟐. 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠: That’s when we blame ourselves for random negative occurrences.
𝟑. 𝐂𝐚𝐭𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐡𝐢𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠: That’s when we assume the worst even with little evidence.
Limiting beliefs and anxiety are very close to each other. Anxiety is our brain doing its best to avoid an outcome it imagined, or believed you already encountered.
Limiting beliefs is you giving a pedestal to your insecurities.
𝐒𝐨, 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭?
Start by questioning everything, 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘨𝘭𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘺𝘮𝘱𝘵𝘰𝘮𝘴.
Take the anxiety we all feel about our families who are far away because of the pandemic. Our heads are full of "what if... what if" and some of us can't sleep at night just thinking about all the worst case scenarios.
Questions you can ask yourself:
👉𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧?
If you don't know the answer, google that!
👉𝐃𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞?
Sometimes it's so absurd, and we don't see it until we question it.
👉𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐈 𝐝𝐨 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧?
Think of at least 2 things you can do.
👉𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐈 𝐟𝐢𝐱 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝟐 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐬?
If not, schedule that.
👉𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧? 𝐈𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐭?
Get used to questioning your anxiety and to give permission to yourself to be wrong.
This is not easy and it won't be solved in one try.
𝗪𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦?